Friday, 22 April 2016

It's hard to love you (purple)

I try, and I try, but you
are hard to hold

Every day, a part of you
leaves

Love is bliss, easy, but takes
Time

But you, you live on planet purple
another world
free spirit, free hair, free like motorcycle

They all thought they knew you
But they don't

I try, and I try, but you
are hard to hold

You did leave much to see
hold 
memories, pictures, songs 
that we shared, even though 
I never loved you
on planet purple 

Love is bliss, easy, but takes
Time

The dream of holding you, being with you, each day
was always just fantasy

I never truly loved you
I loved holding
memories
watching you
rotate around the sun
and hoping
that one day I
could live with
you
in purple

This dream wasn't real
But what you've left me to hold
memories, pain, songs, purple
Still goes around the sun

Sunday, 13 March 2016

Why So Heavy (poem)

I see you

Dealing with bills, repairs, plans, jobs, friends, family
I see you
Dealing with
Life

Look at that weight

Added on
Feminism. Social theory. Black Lives Matter
Hair
Clothes
Men
Women
Identity

Look at that weight

I want to know why
You're so heavy
But what I really want is
I want to
Look at that weight
More closely

I want to hold you
I want to take your shoulders and
Lift you
Trust me
I want to
Look at ALL that weight

I want
You
To say to me
Wow
Look at that weight

I want to listen to music
I want to be free
I want to be free with you

I want you to let it go
I want you to
Look at me
To
Stop worrying
I want you to

Look at all that weight


Saturday, 5 March 2016

Poem: Social Media Love

I have a social media boo
She likes everything on Facebook
And Instagram too

All my followers be watching trying to put 2 and 2
I'm liking other pictures just to let them know
Baby I love you too

But my social media boo, she reads errything I do
I put those heart faced smilies on all her posts too
I'm dropping comments like you fine in that dress
And she retweets back with you mo handsome than the rest

I wish sometimes if life could be
As simple as liking something on fleek
Hoping for approval watching who approves who
Can take over the mind and create anxiety too

I wonder tho with my social media boo if in real life
That we could like each other
with touches
with kisses
and dreams that go all night

Love is deep
Love is honest
Social media however is afraid of blemish

Love can happen over a weekend
Love can happen during a dance
even during clumsy dances with two left feet
The touch of two hearts can still find a beat
But social media hides, pretends, it evades
Whereas love, naked raw
Exists in the light with very little shade

So my social media boo I know just isn't true
I may click on a button but it never means
You love me and I love you 

Tuesday, 26 January 2016

The Baker's Wife

I love this blog. I can treat it like a diary or a therapist. I can write what I'm feeling, thinking, listening to without the other person internalizing it via our relationship, without them playing games, without filter.

This latest story is about a woman I met during a baking class last year. We were the only two unpaired so I approached her but she was very awkward and nervous.

She was American from Detroit so I just kept making jokes and talking to her. Eventually she warmed up and we ended up entertaining the entire class with our humor and camaderie. After the class a few people exchanged information but I could see she wasn't interested in exchanging information and became a bit awkward again. It was no bother. While we had such fun I was really more interested in the class instructor. The way that woman made an Italian meringue had me at "turn the mixer on high speed".

Later that month a man who worked at the same bakery where the class was held came up to me and said "I understand you met my wife".

"Excuse me?" I asked.
"At the baking class."
"Oh right! The instructor. What's her name again?" I asked slightly embarrassed.
"No. In the class. The American. Jennifer."
"Oh. Right. How's she doing?"
"She's doing great. She runs a shop down the road. She would love it if you stopped by. She said you two had so much fun."

I looked down and thanked him, bought my baguette and shuffled home.

That conversation was difficult for me because I was in the midst of a period of loneliness. It's ironic how things like loneliness can sometimes push us away from the very source of the issue.

I wanted my own wife, partner, what have you, to bake with, to speak with about "fun guys at the baking class" and it didn't strike me as fun to go sit and have a barrel of laughs with this guys wife. I thought he was marking his territory, making it clear that it was his wife and that I should stay away.

What I was missing, of course, was she wasn't someone's possession. She's wasn't some toy that he's offering me a chance to play with before returning to him, and nor would be my wife and nor would having a relationship like that even have cured my loneliness. She's just a nice person who strikes me as fun and in the midst of loneliness maybe what we need is less possession and focus on mine but more focus on community and us.

I'm still looking for that co-baker (I haven't seen the instructor since) but I hope I'm as big of a man as the guy in the bakery was to ask me to go see his wife. I hope that I don't see my future partner as something I own but just as someone part of a larger community on this rock called Earth who has friendships, purpose and identity separate from me but who chooses to make me part of hers nonetheless.

By the way I ran into him today, which is why I thought of this. He said his wife was away for the next couple days but would be back in her shop this weekend.

I plan to stop by. 

Thursday, 21 January 2016

I have a cold (poem)



I have a cold
I have aches pains congestion

Please don't tell my mama

I'm sitting at home, alone, suffering
Sneezing, hoping it goes away without medicine

Please don't tell my mama

I have a cold
Whoa is me
No one loves me
No one is here to fix my tea
Rub my back
No one cares

Please don't tell my mama

I have a cold
You're going to bring me some hot pepper soup?
No, because then you will inhabit my space
my bedroom, my flat
And I don't like you

But please don't tell my mama
(she wants grandkids)

I have a cold
Someone come inhabit my cold bed
But just for a night
Only

Please don't tell my mama

I have a cold
Look at you
Why are you sniffling
Wait don't tell me
Come here
Girl, you're fine

Please don't tell my mama 

Friday, 15 January 2016

I lost my hat


I lost my hat, on a plane, in an airport, somewhere, I don't know 
All I know is I was having a stupid political debate on whatsapp when I landed
And I look up after getting my luggage 
going through immigration 
sitting on the tube
Putting my phone down finally because 
there's no service on the tube
And my hat was gone

There's a lesson in there somewhere 

I really liked that hat
I've had that hat over 10 years
It has made countless trips with me on planes foreign lands forgotten in hotels and mailed back 
But it's gone now 
Nobody reported it lost and found

WHO THE F$&@ IS WEARING MY DAMN HAT??!!

Maybe I should have put the phone down and took notice of what was important 
Like my hat 
I've learned the lesson 

I'm still mad though

Monday, 11 January 2016

Dee Dee

This is my secret love potion that I keep in a bottle; nothing else needs to be said but "Dee Dee":

"Oh my Love (Diarabi)"